Do you ever get over divorce? Do you ever get past the anger of being left, the frustration of being hurt or the disappointment that your dreams were shattered? Not everyone does, and this is what it looks like when you don’t.
I was speaking to a friend of mine whose husband’s parents are divorced. The father is remarried and the mother is not. His parent’s are grandparents. They live in the same city as their children and grandchildren, and each other. They babysit often and spend good quality time with their grandchildren, albeit separately. They have been divorced for over twenty years.
When it comes to babysitting, the grandfather and “mama”, the step-grandmother (for lack of a better word), take the children often and with enthusiasm. They are hands on and their grandchildren love to spend time with them, especially “mama”.
Grandmommy, the paternal grandmother by blood, takes the children as well, but not quite as much, and her enthusiasm is not as great as the other side. When she does her grandmommy duty, it is often for shorter periods of time with the grandkids.
This is what happened the other night when she was babysitting. The children were discussing “mama” with her and how much they love her. She responded with “Mama is NOT your real grandmother!”
Of course, the children were confused and the parents were not happy about it. It is also not the first time this has happened.
Do you ever get over divorce? Do you ever get past the anger of being left, the frustration of being hurt or the disappointment that your dreams were shattered?
Apparently some people don’t.
Acknowledge, accept, empower and heal.