COUNTING YOUR BLESSINGS


Today I had to go to visit the gynecologist.  This is not an unusual occurrence, but sitting in that waiting area made me realize how important it is to count your blessings every single day.  Being post divorce, it is easy to lose sight of what is really important and to remember the important things, the things that make us feel blessed.

Let me give you some back story.  While going through my contempt hearings with my ex, I got sick.  Not just a little sick, but very sick.  Sick enough that I was sent to M.D. Anderson, the cancer center, with a spot on my lung.  Although that spot turned out to be nothing more than scar tissue, it was obvious that something was amiss so I was then sent to see an infectious disease doctor there.

There were many months of tests, some invasive and some not so invasive.  I spent hours at the hospital there, both in the waiting room and in the doctor’s office.  When every test known to man was finished and I was still not only feeling bad, but losing weight at a rapid rate, they sent me over to gynecology.  You see, I had Cervical Dysplasia the year before, and when they removed my uterus and my cervix, stage one cancer was found.  Ladies…get your pap smears; it could save your life!

At gynecology they found that I had large tumors on my ovaries and they did not know if they were cysts or if they were cancer, as they were solid.  I had both my ovaries removed and am happy to say that they were cancer free.  Although I feel better being put into surgical menopause, because of my history, I remain at M.D. Anderson for all my gynecological needs.

Back to counting your blessings.  As I sat there looking around, I saw women with wigs to cover heads that used to have hair, but were now bald due to chemotherapy.  I saw women who were so thin, their bones were protruding through their sweaters due to illness.  I saw women who were in obvious pain and sad and disheartened over the fact that their bodies were betraying them and I saw women who despite all of the above were smiling and laughing, while drinking coffee

It is so easy to get caught up in the anger and frustration of being on the other side of divorce.  It is so easy to remain there, in that place of comfort even though it is uncomfortable.  It is so easy to wrap that anger around us like a blanket to keep us warm at night.  But, it is so much easier to count our blessings and be grateful for what we have.

Be grateful for your children, the roof over your head, the food on your table, your health and even your pet if you have one.  Be grateful that although your life is not perfect post divorce, it is probably better than it was while you were married.  Be grateful for your friends, family and loved ones.  Be grateful that you have the opportunity to find the you that you love and start over.

Count your blessings every day and see how much better every day will be.

Sarah Bates

During my 5 years in the divorce industry, I gained a lot of knowledge.  Knowledge of the court system and how it works, knowledge on how to let go of the anger, knowledge on how to communicate and most importantly, knowledge on how to empower power people to stay out of court.

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