I have been married for almost 14 years, and have done quite a few things during those years.  This is what I have learned.

The first seven years I lived in Houston, Dallas, New York City and San Francisco.  I dropped out of college to be with my husband who had already graduated.  During those seven years I went to Hawaii every year and attempted to play golf on some of the best Golf Courses around the United States.  I owned my first house in those 7 years.

I started battling with pesky pre-cancer dysplasia on my cervix and in the end had part of my cervix removed.  I had my retina’s detach and surgically re-attached.  I had mono for the second time and was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

I had artificial insemination 12 times and Invitro fertilization once in those seven years and there were no children.

During the next 5 years, I had my daughter and my son.  I owned my second home and started building my third home.  I stayed in Houston, but moved several times, ending in a leased house that was very small while the building was taking place.  I was religious during those five years.  Going to temple every single Saturday and observing Shabbat.  Keeping a kosher home.  Celebrating all major and minor Jewish Holidays.

I was a tennis mom during the day, and spent most of my time lunching and tennissing with my friends.  I had full time help and my duties as a wife and mother were minimal.  I started a very successful high end consignment store during those five years.  I did pilates twice a week every week and cooked dinner almost every night.  I had a Mastiff named Cocoa Puff.  I spent every vacation in the Caribbean.

For the past 8 months, I have been living in my fourth house.  I own a lot that will never be built on.  I have a nice life.  I spend lots of time with my kids, only having someone cleaning 1.5 days a week.  I have two Great Danes.  I don’t travel much and am involved in my kid’s school.  I rarely get a babysitter.  I have had a complete hysterectomy and been put into surgical menopause.  I have once again reinvented myself.

My husband spends most of his time in another city with his other family, which I am not a part of.  My kids and I have a routine that works for us.  We are happy most of the time.  I am pursuing my dream and more importantly allowed to pursue that dream.

I have been married a total of almost 14 years….to three different men.

14 YEARS OF MARRIAGE